Self-worth in children

Niche Etiquette Children has built its reputation on teaching children to behave well in all situations but part of our success comes from understanding that nothing can be achieved in a child who has low self-esteem; so our initial assessment of the many children we teach throughout the year is vitally important.  If we feel children are lacking in self-confidence we will make sure that we work hard to build their self-worth during our classes because without it their social happiness and mental well-being will be compromised.

No matter our age, the way we feel about ourselves can affect everything we do.  For example, imagine when you have dressed correctly for an important social function, having spent the day at the hairdressers and beauty salon; you look the best you have ever been and you feel really good.  When you get to where you are going, you’ll feel comfortable with other people and confident.

Self-image is how we perceive ourselves
When children see their reflections in a mirror it is important that they like who they see.  Every child should be comfortable with who they are and confident that they are worthy of love and affection as well as being positive about what they can achieve.  As parents, you will be the primary influence in your child’s self-worth.

Behavioural problems often stem from poor self-worth
Have you ever wondered why some people are a joy to be with whilst others are depressing and you can’t wait to get away from them?  The way people interact with others, their success academically and in business and their happiness in marriage can often relate back to their sense of self-worth.  So you can understand why your child’s self-esteem should be nurtured and developed from a very early age.  It will be the foundation for your child’s long term future.

This means that children need to have a realistic understanding of their weaknesses and strengths.  Encouraging your children to work on their weaknesses and praising their strengths will help them to build healthy self-esteem and confidence.

Positive and negative influences
As your children grow up they will encounter both positive and negative influences from other children they come into contact with.  By exposing them to more positive influences you can assist them to work through the negative ones.

3 ways to build your child’s self-worth

  1. Focus on your child’s strengths – perhaps they have a natural talent for playing a musical instrument; are they exceptionally gifted at drawing, sport or taking care of their pets?   Whatever the talent is, make sure that your child knows how proud you are of his or her natural ability, show your appreciation with praise and emphasise that not everyone has this particular gift.  Make your child feel special.
  2. Encourage your child to develop those strengths – for example, buy a good quality instrument if they are musically inclined, purchase some artist materials, get some tuition or extra training in a sport; perhaps influence you son or daughter to show their cat or dog in best of breed.  Look for ways in which they can improve on their strengths.  There are so many ways that you can do this.
  3. Support your children – encourage them to join a music group or if they are really good perhaps enter them for Britain’s Got Talent,  enter an art competition or participate in community sports; go to dog training or cat shows with them.  Make sure that they know you support their interest.

No matter what their strengths are, the more you support them in something they are clearly good at, the greater their self-confidence will be and the more self-worth they will feel.  And when they really become confident in this one ability, they will naturally want to experience other things.  In turn these experiences will enhance a positive self-image.

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